I have to believe this is because of the misconception that these communities are about encouraging people to have eating disorders and causing existing eating…
I’m going to do my best not to sound like a total troll here. I like phiLOLZophy a lot—I follow them via this tumblr, and I’m still going to follow them, even though I don’t agree with their postat all concerning tumblr’s decision to censor/prohibit self-harm (including but not limited to: anorexia/bulima/mutilation) blog content. The Dolls at phiLOLZophy come across as if they feel like the shutting down of these blogs, or for tumblr to redirect tags to PSA-style warnings about the dangers of eating disorders and mutilation, that these actions are negative; women, according to the dolls, are the targeted audience, and because of the wording of this new policy, they will lose a public forum to discuss these topics out in the open, with strangers who are struggling, or have struggled with the same issues. They will essentially lose one (or maybe their only) form of communication with like-minded people—their support system, in some cases.
Earlier though, on a separate blog I maintain for my weight loss/lifestyle change, I commended the staff at tumblr for the decision that reached, and the new policies that they are getting ready to put into effect.
Please pick your jaws up off the floor. I know I don’t seem like one to advocate for censorship—this is America after all, but after what I’ve witnessed in the past months of trying to change my lifestyle, eating healthier and working out, moderating my booze intake, etc, I have to say that the ends justifies the means in this situation.
To explain further: with my weight loss blog (which I’m not linking to but you’re more than welcome to request the information for if you’re interested) I often leave tags like “fat” “fat girl” “chubby” and the ever in-trouble “thinspiration”. But those words, especially for the last one, are weightier than one might think… And I hate to admit it, but I’m hoping that when someone with an eating disorder, or even someone who’s just fat or out of shape and doesn’t have the courage to start, well, I’m hoping they’ll search those tags and instead of finding size 2 girls with bird legs and a gap you could kick a field goal through complaining “OH MY GOD MY THIGHS ARE SO FAT! DISGUSTING! ONLY 200 CALORIES FOR ME TONIGHT!” that they might find my blog… Where I try to focus on feeling good, taking care of my body, watching what I eat… Sure, I complain about the numbers not being what I want, and the nightmare that can be clothing shopping for a larger woman, but I don’t put myself down or call myself names or any of that on that particular blog.
Tagging one’s posts can be a powerful tool, because it brings your posts up on searches by thousands of users; and because “fat” is one I search on the regular, to try and find ladies like myself who are trying to better themselves—you know, build the support system that The Dolls touch on in the later part of their post—but you know what I come across? Skinny girls, beautiful girls, talk about their fat (in reality, bird-sized) thighs, pictures of ‘fat’ carved into arms and legs and stomachs, thighs marred by innumerable passes of a razor blade, and people just putting themselves down—I don’t ever see these girls reaching out to someone; what do you propose we do? How can we regulate and prove that certain blogs are out there as help for girls who need it—people suffering from the same disorders, supporting each other—how can we separate them from the girls who want to share secrets on getting away with purging without your family knowing, or tips to hide the self mutilation?
Well, I guess we can start by turning our attention to posts with pictures of marred thighs, bone-basket rib cages, posts about only consuming 200 calories, and Miss Bird Thighs…
I don’t think tumblr is wrong in doing this. I think it will help way more than hurt; and if tumblr is THE ONLY community in which people are seeking support for their disorders, perhaps that’s not the only problem they’re suffering from.
**Disclaimer. Fighting on the net is lame. It’s okay to have a different opinion, but if you’re trying to start something with this post, or the posts it references, please keep on walking.
One of my goals was to take better care of The Island, to maintain our daily traditions (Hello, Tacky Tuesday came and went and of course I forgot, but I am asking your forgiveness because we just got a dog).
And now I’d like to start another day to keep up with, inspired by the ‘link-ups’ of my Big! You can read her Five Question Friday and while you’re at it, cruise her blog—especially if you’re into babies, because she’s a brand new mom! Sara linked this from My Little Life, so check her out too!
And now, the questions!
1. How often do you shave your legs in the winter?
I hate shaving. In fact, you’d be hard pressed to find me with shaved legs in the summer, let alone the winter. I have blonde leg hair and it’s fine. Hate me. SOMETIMES I’ll nair in the shower—it’s so much easier—if my leg hair looks funny in tights (ie-matted, poking out) but it’s not a big deal. I also have taken a break from shaving my armpits; I want to see what it looks like grown out… Kind of an experiment?
2. Valentine’s Day cards for your spouse: funny or romantic?
Cards? I like to paint for him, making him something endearing and cute. So I guess I’m a mix of both?
3. What are you most looking forward to about spring?
Taking Nacho to the dog park downtown, the produce and flowers at the farmer’s market, the promise that summer will be here eventually and the rain will let up. And pedicures that can be seen.
4. What’s your favorite way to pamper yourself?
That isn’t something I do a lot; especially when on a budget, but when I REALLY need one, I like a pedicure.
5. Does your tax return go into savings or do you spend it instantly?
Bills bills bills. And maybe a cheeseburger. Hopefully I can save most of this coming one for my loan payments.
Want to check out Five Question Friday? Check up on ‘Life in these times’ and ‘My Little Life’ both linked above!